It’s not all bad

Well, it’s been a couple of days since Zed had a meltdown so I’ve decided to post some things that I have found can help to stop meltdowns:

  • First, if they seem to be getting angry, I try to let him have more control over what we are doing.
  • Be sympathetic and don’t forget that he finds it hard to think about other people’s views on things.
  • Make sure that you are not being to bossy.
  • Give him plenty of warning when you are planning to do things, like say if you are going to want to do something alone or go out, and suchlike.

Those tend to help with Zed, so hopefully they should help anyone else who has the same problems as me.
Also, if you are a child I have found this good website for talking to other kids who have PDA or have brothers and sisters who have PDA:




8 responses to “It’s not all bad”

  1. janesherwin says :

    well done for blogging about how you cope, as the sibling, of a child with PDA. My daughter has PDA and I know how tough it was for my son to understand and cope although thankfully he is five years older and we also went to great lengths to shield him. Keep up the good work hun you may be able to really help a lot of siblings with this blog. I’ll put your blog on my blog roll xxx

    • molbri says :

      I feel that your responses has changed some of my mind , thanks- mb here to help

      • janesherwin says :

        Hi Molbri, hope that you are finding life easier, coping with a sibling with PDA must be soooo difficult to cope with. The good news is that with the correct support and approaches life can become easier for all of you. Moll now has a really good relationship with her brother and is no longer causing havoc in our lives or his. He really went through the mill but life is much easier now, keep up the good work xxxxx

  2. janesherwin says :

    Reblogged this on Pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome an autism spectrum condition and commented:
    I wondered if we could show our support for a new blogger. She is a teenager living with a sibling with PDA. Hopefully if she can keep up the blogging it may become a wonderful resource for other siblings and we can hopefully offer her support to xx

  3. StephsTwoGirls says :

    Great tips, we’ve found these work well with our girl too. It’s important not to always let him have control but to try and imagine what he might get upset about in advance and then plan it fairly – so he gets first go or chance to choose his channel first, for set amount of time, but then it’s your turn. Some days though, you may have to just let it go to avoid the meltdown, but I know that’s not fair. Kind of you to share the website for others.

    • generalfish says :

      yes, it can be hard to accept to just let it go…
      I think the administrator no longer looks at that website anymore, so it is pointless now, as you need them to verify accounts.

  4. heretohelp says :

    I am 11 years old, and I am living with my younger 8 year old sister who has PDA. I just wanted to agree with most of the people on this site by saying that “there is a light at the end of the tunnel”, just give it all you’ve got and try to find a solution. thanks for listening -mb-here to help

  5. molbri says :

    I just wanted people to know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that there is hope, just try to work your way forward and keep thinking happy thoughts!!!!!!!!!!

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